The beloved Peloton Instructor andDancing with the Starsfinalist chronicles his journey from small town North Carolina to New York City stardom in an empowering story that reveals his secret to success: not taking yourselfor lifetoo seriously.

Cody Rigsby has a lot of opinions: Kevin is the hottest Backstreet Boy;grape jelly is a crime against nature; if you wear flip-flops in New York City, you do not love yourself. But if there is one opinionone truththat he holds above all others, its that we shouldnt take ourselves too seriously. We shouldnt let the fear of looking stupid, or messing up, or being judged, hold us back from living our best lives.

Cody didn’t always believe this, though. InXOXO, Cody, he opens up about his journey to accepting himself, from growing up gay and poor in the South with a mom suffering from addiction to his migration to New York City, wherehe went from broke-ass dancer to fitness icon.He intimately details what it was like to lose both his father and best friend to addiction and how he began to repair his relationship with his mom as an adult. He recounts his time working at a night club on the Lower East Sideand his decision to auditionfor Peloton on a whim even though he had never taught a fitness class before, anddishes aboutcompeting against Sporty Spice onDancing with the Stars.

With raw and inspiring stories about learning how to handle the scary sh*t, interspersed with Q&As and Codys definitive rankings on everything from the best after-school snacks to the most frightening Mario Kart characters,XOXO, Codyis a bold and heartfelt reminder that sometimes laughing at yourself is the best medicine. Remember: It aint that deep, boo.